Ep 211: I washed away my #MomGuilt with one meal
This post is sponsored by Martha & Marley Spoon: Martha Stewart’s meal delivery service.
Let’s be honest with each other, when you’re building a business, working a 9-to-5, married, being a mother, all those things take effort energy and darn near superpowers to get an A+ in every category.
Although we know that no one expects us to don a superhero cape, somehow that dreaded guilt shows up. That mom guilt that makes you say, “I want to have it all, but if I chase what I want I’m a bad person for not having 100% of me present for my family.”
Well, one meal, seriously, just one, had me let go of this dreadful #momguilt.
You’re probably thinking... “what magical fairy dust did she have on a plate?”
Not quite fairy dust, but there was goodness on the plate. And not just on the plate but the true goodness was in the experience of getting the food to the plate.
My girls ages 10, 8, and 6 were all home for winter break, and I was working from home. As is usually true, kids when at home, and at this age are constantly hungry. But snacks aside, when we’re together I take a focus on the big meals, lunch, and dinner.
Now, full disclosure, I don’t cook often.
The chief chef in our house is my husband, and I am so grateful.
But when I’m at home and the girls are home, seriously, I feel the obligation and some desire to make a nice meal for the family.
One of the reasons I don’t cook much is time. Soooooo much going on, and I took the cape off a long time ago. But nonetheless...I had the opportunity in front of me to be a real chef.
I had a box from Martha & Marley Spoon calling my name.
Because it was cold outside, we had it sitting in the garage patiently waiting to be tore into.
I brought it in and started to dig through and check out everything that was inside. My two older girls went upstairs and started playing with other things. But, there was a smaller voice anxiously looking at what was inside right along with me.
“Mom, can I help?”
I thought about this for a second, almost tempted to say “not yet,” simply because I wanted to get the meal cooked, give myself a pat on the back for being the top chef and move on.
But I stopped, turned and looked at her with the excitement in her eyes and said, “sure, let’s see what you can do.”
After we figured what we were going to cook, it actually came in handy having her around.
She was peeling rosemary leaves, throwing away empty containers, and even learned how to safely put a dish in the oven and take it out.
This was turning out to be both an efficient and learning experience for her.
All the time I spent with her making this meal, was the time that she and I laughed. We talked. She got to ask questions. I got to save myself the tedious tasks, and tada we both got a magnificent dinner onto the table.
That #momguilt melted away from me during that entire experience.
The feeling of not spending enough time with my kiddos, not being and doing everything I could for them, all of that died in the experience of creating this one meal.
It’s amazing what food will do.
I used Martha & Marley Spoon, and I invite you to do the same. You can visit MarleySpoon.com to order your boxes and see what magic food can do for you.
At the very least, here’s an opportunity to ditch your #MomGuilt.